Ruby's Birth Blog

 

The Discovery (scroll down to go straight to the birth)

At the age of 24, Jason and I decided it was time that we try to make a little human of our own. 

It took months of trying (and I'm talking elevating my bum with pillows and holding my legs in the air!) It also took numerous negative pregnancy tests and an ovulation app but finally... on the 5th of September 2015, I randomly decided to pee on a pregnancy stick before heading to lunch at a winery with my girlfriends just "in case" I was pregnant.

The stick immediately looked negative, "oh well... at least I could head to the winery with the girls and enjoy the bubbles!". 

I casually continued to curl my hair and get ready. I didn't feel pregnant and if I were it would have been very early days so I had no expectations of seeing two lines on that preggy stick.

Suddenly, I received a text message from my best friend, it read "I'm here babe". "oh crap" I'm running late again... I quickly gathered my things, threw on my shoes and started making a dash through the bathroom towards the front door until...

"oh wait, my pee stick!" I remembered that pregnancy tests can take up to 5 minutes for an accurate result so it was more than ready for me to see! I spun around and reached for the test only to discover two distinct preggy lines staring back at me. 

Admittedly, my first thought was "dammit! no bubbles for me today!", my second thought was "holy crap! My body is growing a baby, it is actually happening!!". 

No matter how long you are trying for a baby and despite thinking you're ready for a positive reading... nothing can prepare you for the overwhelming moment of discovery that all of your hopes and fears are coming to life! 

The announcement to Jason was extremely underwhelming and not how I wanted it to go down, but I was in shock... I had to tell him before I left.

Jason was out the front with the leaf blower, I managed to get his attention and he strolled over to me (he was probably just thinking I was wanting to say goodbye before I left) I abruptly said "I just peed on a pregnancy stick upstairs! I'm pregnant! I've got to go! Cya!" 

I literally do not even remember or think he got a chance to respond before I dashed out the door... but I do remember the heartfelt text message I received shortly after that. 

"Now how am I supposed to go to a winery and not drink wine but not tell my girlfriends I literally just found out I'm pregnant..." 

The 5th of September 2015 was a day to remember, never would I have known it would be the very first day into the unknown world of motherhood.

 

 

The Birth

Fast forward to a smooth and uncomplicated 9 months of pregnancy, to my due date the 18th May 2016.

This date just so happened to be my birthday but all the midwives told me that only 5% of women go into labour on their due dates so the morning I woke up of my birthday I expected that the day would be no different to the rest and I would have at least another few days to go, especially considering I had not one single labour sign on the lead up to the due date. 

At 6.00AM after spending a few moments in bed opening gifts and celebrating mine and my dogs birthday, (yes it was ironically his birthday too!) I stood up and headed to the bathroom, as I took 4 steps I soon realised that I had pee running down my leg and I couldn't stop it, however, this "pee" was clear and it was warm and I seriously had this moment of confusion. "what the f is that?" I looked up to Jason who was in the bathroom and about to have a shower and as I began to say "I think my waters have broken" I instantly felt a gush! 

I just stood there waiting... waiting for the pain to follow, just like the movies right!? The waters break and next minute they are in full blown labour! well, not me... my body decided to keep the suspense and keep me guessing for the next 12 hours to follow. 

Considering I wasn't in any pain at all, (just consistently wetting my pants) I decided to take a shower considering this could be my last chance to have one for a while. We made the bed, got ready and headed to the hospital around 8:00 AM.

Once we arrived at the hospital (15 minutes away) still not in any pain and with a towel between my legs (that was fun!) I needed to be hooked up to a CTG and have an internal examination done to determine whether I was in labour or not. (as if the towel between my legs wasn't proof enough!) 

Let's just say that there was so much amniotic fluid flowing out of there like a bloomin river that they couldn't get a visual of my cervix and see whether or not I was dilating and due to the fact that I was at a higher risk of infection, they didn't want to examine me for very long. 

The plan of actions that were made from then onwards was to head home until the contractions got painful enough to come back and if nothing at all happened then to come back anyway by 6:00 PM to start an induction. 

I spent the rest of my birthday hanging out on the couch watching movies and patiently waiting for something to happen while my immediate family members popped in to see me for my birthday (oh how I could see straight through that one!) I love being asked "are you feeling anything yet?" & "what about now?" every 30 minutes... good times! 

Jokes aside, it was a very relaxing day and my only regret is that I didn't spend the day sleeping and getting ready for the next 24-48hours that lied ahead of me. 

1:00PM by lunchtime, I began to feel mild period pain, which slowly became more and more painful but it came on very slowly throughout the day. It was a very smooth "intro" to labour.

3-4:00PM I began using my tens machine which I had hired a week prior to my due date and a wheat bag.

6:00PM nope! Let's go! the pain is getting worse quickly (which was perfect timing really because it was time to go back) 

Once we arrived the second time, I was admitted into my delivery room where I took a moment (and this photograph) to acknowledge the room and table where my beautiful Ruby would be born and placed on to very soon! (So surreal!)

(TMI) but hey, we're all friends here? I also took a moment on the toilet to clear my bowels 💩 I'm unsure if my body was naturally clearing itself in preparation for birth or I was just doing a nervous poop but the midwives reassured me that the baby would not fall out in the toilet...

I laboured naturally for the next 4 hours and found my contractions getting more and more intense. I had read some "calm birthing" books and knew to use my voice as a tool of distraction from the pain which helped me along aside my handy dandy tens machine cranked up to the full notch on each contraction.

My contractions were consistently close together for the entirety of my labour, they were 2-3 minutes apart and I found I became exhausted by them and by 10:00PM I asked to be examined. 

I had remained extremely positive during my labour up until this point, I was breathing through my contractions and focusing on the contractions one by one as they came but the pain was becoming more than I could handle and the contractions were hitting fast.

Surely this meant baby Ruby was close to entering the world?! I thought I had reached the peak of my pain, I thought I was smashing this whole labour thing until I was told I was 2.5cm.......

After months and months of learning how to have a positive and calm birth had now flown right out the door within seconds. I was utterly disheartened! I feel like that midwife could have really done me a solid and lied to me at that point (haha!)

"you're telling me my waters broke 16 hours ago and I've been contracting every 2 minutes for over 4 hours... (seriously that's 240 contractions...) only to be 2.5cm!!!" 

Uncontrollable tears flowed down my face and I instantly begged for an epidural! I was at my the limit of my mental capacity with this pain, there was absolutely no way I could one more contraction without any pain relief. 

During the wait for the anesthesiologist I decided to try some gas but I felt like it did nothing for me! I hated the feeling of "being drunk" so instead the mask and pipe became like a microphone for the mammal-like noises that started emerging from my body. 

I never thought I'd be a loud labouring woman until this point (looking back it makes Jason and I laugh!) 🤣

To be honest the epidural was a piece of piss! the only pain I felt was a tiny pinch of the numbing injection which is inserted before the epidural goes in and it was hard but I just focused on sitting still while it was being administered. 

Fast forward to 30 minutes later to a happy and relaxed labour lady! (yes it took a solid half an hour before the bloomin thing decided to work, I had always though epis would be instant!) 

1:00AM (the next day) after a few hours on the epi and many many top ups I decided I was too numb and I no longer liked it, I wanted to feel something when it came to pushing so despite my midwives advice I decided to wait a little longer between top ups. Ultimately this decision became my worst and best idea! 

Worst because: the contraction pains came back in random areas of my body (mostly the left side of my back and stomach) and I found it difficult to get through them without having the ability to move my body. 

Best because: when it came to pushing I knew when to push because I was able to feel when my contractions were hitting. 

4:00AM It had officially hit 22 hours since my wonderful wet birthday surprise ran down my legs! I was managing well with the epi (still so glad the thing exists) however it seemed to have stalled my labour so my midwife administered something into my drip to get things moving along (oxytocin I believe?). 

5:00AM I was told I was 10CM (finally!) and it was time to put my legs into stirrups and start pushing! 25minutes of pushing and a small graze and miss Ruby was born. 

Unfortunately, when Ruby came out the cord was wrapped around her neck twice so she took a little longer to breathe than usual and was removed from my chest during the initial skin on skin time to get some medical aid, it was a little frightening and I just remember looking over to Jason at that moment and ask that someone help him because was white as a ghost and seconds away from fainting 😂(luckily we had a midwife student there to help him!)

Our babe Ruby was born at 5.25AM on the 19th May 2016 (the day after my birthday, good try Rubes!!) she was 8 pounds (3.8kg) and 52cm. 

Our lives changed for the better and for the crazier the moment we became Ruby's parents and we wouldn't change a single thing!!

We love you baby girl x 



(stay tuned for the recording of Sav's birth vlog as I do a talk through recording of her birth and how it was in compared to Ruby's birth which includes the footage of me pushing her out! 😍) 

Comments

46 comments

Amanda

Amanda

You capture and tell your stories beautifully. I love that you share everything! I watched the birth of Sav and it reassured me by seeing you normalise this amazing thing we are so blessed to go through on Instagram. I am due to birth our first bubba in about 8 weeks. A sweet little girl 💞 EXCITED is an understatement! Keep doing you! You inspire so many more than you think xx

Caitlin Shanley

Caitlin Shanley

What a lovely birth story, I love reading these. I was induced for my first and I’m so nervous I will go into spontaneous labour for my next birth. I like that my experience was very controlled haha

Kim

Kim

Thank you so much for sharing your birth story, it was amazing to read. 😊

Jade

Jade

I love reading other Birth stories, they are all so different and so very special. I remember being assessed with my second daughter and was told I was 4cm. My midwife is my twin sister & reassured me to not get disheartened & quickly reminded me that my first daughter was a quick labour and to keep doing what I was doing. After an hour of pelvic rocking & squatting like a duck I was fully dilated (how’s that for a quick turnaround 😉)
Thank you for sharing your beautiful mama moment 💕💕💕💕

Svenja

Svenja

Oh my goodness this is so gorgeous to read! I want more !! Haha
I am 37 weeks today with my first and trying to feel anything already that might be labour related haha. It all feels so real reading this blog!!! The excitement is getting REAL now! Thank you so much for sharing! Xxxx

Rangi Rikihana

Rangi Rikihana

I absolutely loved the read! When I read after the nurse check you and you were 2.5cm I felt like I was in labour as that happened to me. Talk about mental battle!

Ann-Marie

Ann-Marie

A truly beautiful read that brought back some lovely memories of my own pregnancies and births 💕

Gabby

Gabby

So so beautiful! Brings tears to my eyes, labor is such an incredible process!

Gabby

Gabby

So so beautiful! Brings tears to my eyes, labor is such an incredible process!

Jane

Jane

Oh my god that was so lovely I feel you with the 2.5cm I was stuck at 2cm for hours on my 1st hoping that this time round will be a bit quicker only 7 weeks to go 😍😁🤰🤱

Jessica Wyld

Jessica Wyld

Omg tears in my eyes :-) what a strong woman you are!! Congrats on persevering :) and now you have 2 beautiful girls!

Mel

Mel

I’m a weirdo but I love reading birth stories! Thanks for sharing x like!

Nicola

Nicola

Loved reading your birth story! I always think of my own when reading others! Keen to read Sav’s 🥰

Crystal

Crystal

I love hearing birth stories since I gave birth in March this year. Amazing how different all our journeys are.

Nataly Soleiman

Nataly Soleiman

You are a super mamma 💕
It’s nice when you hear other mums pregnancy journey till the birth date😍💕❤️🙏🏻 Keep it up girl and bless your little angels 👼 💕💕💕 you done a good job 🙌🏻👌🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻..
I’m a mum of 2 daughters
One is two yo ,6 weeks old
I had a hard day with my second baby they had to inducing me 3 weeks before my due date she supposed to come on 12th of May but she induced me on 24th pf April because the doctors were so worried about the size of the baby she was 2.5 kg and the placenta was too small but she’s all good now 🙏🏻🙏🏻And put on so much weight 🤩
And lucky i had the epidural ☹️ But the one who gave me the epidural she hit the nerve and I screamed a lot😫 and felt like the electricity hit in my left legs 🦵 so damn hard and painful. 😥
I Lost 2.5 litres of blood ,couldn’t have any sleep during that day at night time only one hour because of the tired 😓 i was sweating the whole night hot and cold and every time i feed my daughter i feel stomachache…etc
Then the next morning i was much better after the medication that they gave to me 🙏🏻🙏🏻 The say before.

Shannon vanderree

Shannon vanderree

I loved reading your birth story 🙌🏻 You bought me back to 8 months ago when I thought I was peeing my pants and for it to be my waters! I was so confused, am I extremely pregnant and all of a sudden lost complete control of my pelvic floor? Or did my water break 😂 I love the positivity you had through writing your whole experience, I think people can really scare others with the way they word and describe labour! (I know I was reading way to many and scaring myself) but I loved how you wrote this! 💘 and defiantly not to long!! Can not wait to read sav’s birth story!! 😊😊

Soteria

Soteria

Super mama🙌🏽 Love hearing how incredible women are and what their bodies can handle. I’m a few weeks away from my 5th😳 people seem to think the pain gets easier or you kind of just sneeze them out🤣 and your more ready hell no🙅🏻‍♀️I’ve never been more scared and so not ready for that unforgettable yet worth it pain😩💟💜

Leesa

Leesa

I love reading birth stories, definitely not too long! It is so disheartening when you’ve been in pain for such a long time to be told your only a few cms dilated! Thanks for sharing x

Taylor

Taylor

Love it! I went into labour naturally the night before my due date, midwife told me babies never come on time but she arrived on her due date at 5.29am!! Amazing how it happens 💜

Jaimi

Jaimi

wow! Although my labour was a much different story I resonate with NEEDING the epidural and being a “loud labourer” so much. I always told myself there is no way I’d be loud and I literally screamed at the top of my lungs- my labour was quick- what I guess they’d class as too quick I was at 10 less than an hour after they broke my waters- begging for the epidural after 25 minutes when I was at 7cm. I have so much admiration for women such as your self who are labour for such long periods of time! ( also thank god for midwifery student hey 🙌🏼) xx

Sue

Sue

Just lovely to read. Motherhood is the best hood to be in, although a good warm hoodie comes close x

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