Ruby's Birth Blog

 

The Discovery (scroll down to go straight to the birth)

At the age of 24, Jason and I decided it was time that we try to make a little human of our own. 

It took months of trying (and I'm talking elevating my bum with pillows and holding my legs in the air!) It also took numerous negative pregnancy tests and an ovulation app but finally... on the 5th of September 2015, I randomly decided to pee on a pregnancy stick before heading to lunch at a winery with my girlfriends just "in case" I was pregnant.

The stick immediately looked negative, "oh well... at least I could head to the winery with the girls and enjoy the bubbles!". 

I casually continued to curl my hair and get ready. I didn't feel pregnant and if I were it would have been very early days so I had no expectations of seeing two lines on that preggy stick.

Suddenly, I received a text message from my best friend, it read "I'm here babe". "oh crap" I'm running late again... I quickly gathered my things, threw on my shoes and started making a dash through the bathroom towards the front door until...

"oh wait, my pee stick!" I remembered that pregnancy tests can take up to 5 minutes for an accurate result so it was more than ready for me to see! I spun around and reached for the test only to discover two distinct preggy lines staring back at me. 

Admittedly, my first thought was "dammit! no bubbles for me today!", my second thought was "holy crap! My body is growing a baby, it is actually happening!!". 

No matter how long you are trying for a baby and despite thinking you're ready for a positive reading... nothing can prepare you for the overwhelming moment of discovery that all of your hopes and fears are coming to life! 

The announcement to Jason was extremely underwhelming and not how I wanted it to go down, but I was in shock... I had to tell him before I left.

Jason was out the front with the leaf blower, I managed to get his attention and he strolled over to me (he was probably just thinking I was wanting to say goodbye before I left) I abruptly said "I just peed on a pregnancy stick upstairs! I'm pregnant! I've got to go! Cya!" 

I literally do not even remember or think he got a chance to respond before I dashed out the door... but I do remember the heartfelt text message I received shortly after that. 

"Now how am I supposed to go to a winery and not drink wine but not tell my girlfriends I literally just found out I'm pregnant..." 

The 5th of September 2015 was a day to remember, never would I have known it would be the very first day into the unknown world of motherhood.

 

 

The Birth

Fast forward to a smooth and uncomplicated 9 months of pregnancy, to my due date the 18th May 2016.

This date just so happened to be my birthday but all the midwives told me that only 5% of women go into labour on their due dates so the morning I woke up of my birthday I expected that the day would be no different to the rest and I would have at least another few days to go, especially considering I had not one single labour sign on the lead up to the due date. 

At 6.00AM after spending a few moments in bed opening gifts and celebrating mine and my dogs birthday, (yes it was ironically his birthday too!) I stood up and headed to the bathroom, as I took 4 steps I soon realised that I had pee running down my leg and I couldn't stop it, however, this "pee" was clear and it was warm and I seriously had this moment of confusion. "what the f is that?" I looked up to Jason who was in the bathroom and about to have a shower and as I began to say "I think my waters have broken" I instantly felt a gush! 

I just stood there waiting... waiting for the pain to follow, just like the movies right!? The waters break and next minute they are in full blown labour! well, not me... my body decided to keep the suspense and keep me guessing for the next 12 hours to follow. 

Considering I wasn't in any pain at all, (just consistently wetting my pants) I decided to take a shower considering this could be my last chance to have one for a while. We made the bed, got ready and headed to the hospital around 8:00 AM.

Once we arrived at the hospital (15 minutes away) still not in any pain and with a towel between my legs (that was fun!) I needed to be hooked up to a CTG and have an internal examination done to determine whether I was in labour or not. (as if the towel between my legs wasn't proof enough!) 

Let's just say that there was so much amniotic fluid flowing out of there like a bloomin river that they couldn't get a visual of my cervix and see whether or not I was dilating and due to the fact that I was at a higher risk of infection, they didn't want to examine me for very long. 

The plan of actions that were made from then onwards was to head home until the contractions got painful enough to come back and if nothing at all happened then to come back anyway by 6:00 PM to start an induction. 

I spent the rest of my birthday hanging out on the couch watching movies and patiently waiting for something to happen while my immediate family members popped in to see me for my birthday (oh how I could see straight through that one!) I love being asked "are you feeling anything yet?" & "what about now?" every 30 minutes... good times! 

Jokes aside, it was a very relaxing day and my only regret is that I didn't spend the day sleeping and getting ready for the next 24-48hours that lied ahead of me. 

1:00PM by lunchtime, I began to feel mild period pain, which slowly became more and more painful but it came on very slowly throughout the day. It was a very smooth "intro" to labour.

3-4:00PM I began using my tens machine which I had hired a week prior to my due date and a wheat bag.

6:00PM nope! Let's go! the pain is getting worse quickly (which was perfect timing really because it was time to go back) 

Once we arrived the second time, I was admitted into my delivery room where I took a moment (and this photograph) to acknowledge the room and table where my beautiful Ruby would be born and placed on to very soon! (So surreal!)

(TMI) but hey, we're all friends here? I also took a moment on the toilet to clear my bowels 💩 I'm unsure if my body was naturally clearing itself in preparation for birth or I was just doing a nervous poop but the midwives reassured me that the baby would not fall out in the toilet...

I laboured naturally for the next 4 hours and found my contractions getting more and more intense. I had read some "calm birthing" books and knew to use my voice as a tool of distraction from the pain which helped me along aside my handy dandy tens machine cranked up to the full notch on each contraction.

My contractions were consistently close together for the entirety of my labour, they were 2-3 minutes apart and I found I became exhausted by them and by 10:00PM I asked to be examined. 

I had remained extremely positive during my labour up until this point, I was breathing through my contractions and focusing on the contractions one by one as they came but the pain was becoming more than I could handle and the contractions were hitting fast.

Surely this meant baby Ruby was close to entering the world?! I thought I had reached the peak of my pain, I thought I was smashing this whole labour thing until I was told I was 2.5cm.......

After months and months of learning how to have a positive and calm birth had now flown right out the door within seconds. I was utterly disheartened! I feel like that midwife could have really done me a solid and lied to me at that point (haha!)

"you're telling me my waters broke 16 hours ago and I've been contracting every 2 minutes for over 4 hours... (seriously that's 240 contractions...) only to be 2.5cm!!!" 

Uncontrollable tears flowed down my face and I instantly begged for an epidural! I was at my the limit of my mental capacity with this pain, there was absolutely no way I could one more contraction without any pain relief. 

During the wait for the anesthesiologist I decided to try some gas but I felt like it did nothing for me! I hated the feeling of "being drunk" so instead the mask and pipe became like a microphone for the mammal-like noises that started emerging from my body. 

I never thought I'd be a loud labouring woman until this point (looking back it makes Jason and I laugh!) 🤣

To be honest the epidural was a piece of piss! the only pain I felt was a tiny pinch of the numbing injection which is inserted before the epidural goes in and it was hard but I just focused on sitting still while it was being administered. 

Fast forward to 30 minutes later to a happy and relaxed labour lady! (yes it took a solid half an hour before the bloomin thing decided to work, I had always though epis would be instant!) 

1:00AM (the next day) after a few hours on the epi and many many top ups I decided I was too numb and I no longer liked it, I wanted to feel something when it came to pushing so despite my midwives advice I decided to wait a little longer between top ups. Ultimately this decision became my worst and best idea! 

Worst because: the contraction pains came back in random areas of my body (mostly the left side of my back and stomach) and I found it difficult to get through them without having the ability to move my body. 

Best because: when it came to pushing I knew when to push because I was able to feel when my contractions were hitting. 

4:00AM It had officially hit 22 hours since my wonderful wet birthday surprise ran down my legs! I was managing well with the epi (still so glad the thing exists) however it seemed to have stalled my labour so my midwife administered something into my drip to get things moving along (oxytocin I believe?). 

5:00AM I was told I was 10CM (finally!) and it was time to put my legs into stirrups and start pushing! 25minutes of pushing and a small graze and miss Ruby was born. 

Unfortunately, when Ruby came out the cord was wrapped around her neck twice so she took a little longer to breathe than usual and was removed from my chest during the initial skin on skin time to get some medical aid, it was a little frightening and I just remember looking over to Jason at that moment and ask that someone help him because was white as a ghost and seconds away from fainting 😂(luckily we had a midwife student there to help him!)

Our babe Ruby was born at 5.25AM on the 19th May 2016 (the day after my birthday, good try Rubes!!) she was 8 pounds (3.8kg) and 52cm. 

Our lives changed for the better and for the crazier the moment we became Ruby's parents and we wouldn't change a single thing!!

We love you baby girl x 



(stay tuned for the recording of Sav's birth vlog as I do a talk through recording of her birth and how it was in compared to Ruby's birth which includes the footage of me pushing her out! 😍) 

Comments

46 comments

Chloe

Chloe

Thank you for being so honest and raw. I’m due in a few weeks with our first little one. Love following you and how real you keep it. You’re amazing 😘 xx

Ruth

Ruth

Reading your birth story made me relive mine, and now I look like a total mess ugly crying quietly so my bub won’t wake up! 😊

Amazing how all these things happen to a woman’s body and the whole experience of motherhood.

You’re a beautiful mumma inside and out! Can’t wait to read Sav’s birth story.

Amy

Amy

So amazing 😍 such a strong mumma 💪🏽💪🏽

Sarah S

Sarah S

Just beautiful. So real and raw. I love a good birth story🥰

Amanda Fisher

Amanda Fisher

This gives me all the feels 🥰 what a birthday!! You see waters break in movies and think holy sh*t baby is coming now! But that isn’t always the way. (False advertising 😂)I love birth story Ruby and I love how raw and beautiful your video with Sav is. Can’t wait to hear about her birth. Ps – I felt like I was peeing myself when my waters broke too. Then Niagara Falls opened up 😂

Kate

Kate

This is beautiful!
I feel like our story is similar in the fact that we tried to stay positive then eventually asking for the epidural and I’m so grateful for the epidural as well!
It’s crazy how numb it actually makes you.
And as for all that time being in pain and then being told you’re only 2.5cm, that would have been tough! The female body is amazing, it’s definitely all worth it in the end though.
It would have been scary seeing bub with the cord wrapped around her neck, I’m glad it all worked out in the end!
I’m a first time mum, my little one decided to come 5 weeks early, and my waters ruptured 2 weeks before her birth so it was definitely not how I expected pregnancy/giving birth to go.

Elloise

Elloise

Loved this read – such a beautiful reflection and birth story! Also really insightful, I’m pregnant with number two and know nothing about epidurals so good to know more. Thanks for sharing ❤️

Sam

Sam

I remember the feeling of the positive pee stick with both of ours. You can or describe that feeling but it’s amazing the journey that follows that moment. Thank you for sharing one of your incredibly intimate life moments with us. It is just beautiful and a reminder of how amazing we as women are to grow and give birth to another human life. Your girls are extremely lucky to have you as their Mumma. X

Maddie

Maddie

What a beautiful story. It reminds me so much of my little girl’s arrival into this crazy world. The long labor (I had false labor pains for 2 days), the heartbreak of not being as far dialated as you’d hoped, the positive mindset and focusing on what you can control. I’ve recently been worried about looking into the future to when we try for a second bub because the pain and trauma of birth is still so fresh. But I forget to stop and remember the beauty of birth, the courage and bravery we have as women and the strength we have as mothers and mothers to be. I feel truly inspired by Ruby’s birth story, and my husband better watch out because these ovaries are exploding! 🤭😅

Brooke

Brooke

Thank you for sharing!! I love how honest it was! I’m 33 weeks pregnant with my first and love reading birth stories, especially this one as it is so easy to read, I love that you had parts for laughs and tears! I can’t wait to hear Savvy’s!
💕

Natalie

Natalie

Thank you for sharing! I’m currently undergoing fertility treatment and I’m spending my time engrossing in other births and babies to take my mind off my broken heart.
What a gorgeous family!!

Letitia

Letitia

Thank you for sharing your experience, I could read birth stories for hours ❤️
How amazing is the human body xx

Courtney

Courtney

Love reading birth stories! I’m abit of a joker and come from a big family so no one ever takes me seriously! I was 5 days late (and for me like every other month I was convinced I was pregnant). I was with my best friend and she had a spare test so She finally convinced me to take it and there it was 2 blue lines clear as day! I came running out and held the door “I’m pregnant!” She got up and I shouted “what are you doing?!” … to come over and hug me lol I sat around for abit then thought I should probably get home and let my parter no who sure enough didn’t believe me either 😂 can’t wait to have more x

Jacelyn

Jacelyn

Beautiful! Loved the read. My Ruby was born on the 9th of June 2016 by induction. Which was a completely different experience to my 10 week old boy Sonny who I went naturally with. The second time around for me was a much calmer experience. Can’t wait to hear Sav’s birth story 💕

Ebony Spiteri

Ebony Spiteri

Incredible story! I’m 1 month PP after an emergency c section with my first baby, this story is beautiful!
Thanks for sharing with us xx

Skylar

Skylar

Loved your story!!! I enjoyed reading someone’s birthing story/blog. I’m not a big blog reader but came across your Instagram a month ago. Love your little family and can’t wait for Sav’s story. Crazy how each birthing experience is different. I’m on my third pregnancy baby girl #3 🥰 due end of July. Excited to see how this one goes 🤪

Michaela (three little bears)

Michaela (three little bears)

This is beautiful! Sounds a lot like my first labour too! It went on for ages! But definitely worth it ❤️ Good job mumma

Amy

Amy

Beautiful! Never TMI in a birth story! Thanks for sharing your Ruby journey x

Kellie-lea

Kellie-lea

Omg how beautiful !! Thank you for sharing!!! 😍 My girl was 4weeks early, posterior (so super painful pregnancy and labour) had an epi which didn’t work but that feeling at the end amazing!! Haha fast fwd 4years, my son was born in the sac 2days overdue after 4.5hrs and 3 pushes with no drugs. Every birth so different but so amazing!! Xxx💕

Maggie-Rose

Maggie-Rose

First time mumma here🙋‍♀️ I am due in September and I love hearing birth stories. I’m constantly asking my mum friends about their births and is this/that normal. I have also wondered if I needed to poop 💩 would the baby fall out😂 I don’t really have a birth plan I am totally going in with the mind set whatever happens, happens and everything will be okay! I have just purchased some of your TMB singlets FYI and they are amazing, such good quality❤️

Lexie

Lexie

There’s no such thing as TMI when it comes to motherhood! 😆 I was hoping for that “natural clear out” prior to the birth! I had heard plenty of women say that they had a HUGE movement before labour so I was sure that would happen to me..
instead I couldn’t 💩 for 48hours prior to having my daughter (at 41weeks and 1 day 😩)! So I was SO uncomfortable…and gassy through my entire labour. I tried to reason with the midwives that I really needed something to go or I’ll be “going” when its time to push.. They said “no its just the babies head.” They soon learnt otherwise…😒😅
Thank you for sharing your story hon. I’m due to have my 2nd end of August. 🤞 fingers crossed for that natural clear out this time round! 😆😂🤣

Ashleigh

Ashleigh

So raw and real, an absolute pleasure to read. My labour and birth with my Ruby (4 and a half months ago) was incredibly similar – minus the waters breaking! Thank you for being so honest, I’ve shared your experience with my best friend to show how everyone’s experience is so different yet so beautiful! x

Lauren

Lauren

I think I love the story about how you found out just as much if not more so than the birth!! It just goes to show that women are capable of amazing things, 22 hours of later and you went back to do it all again 😄♥️

Brooke

Brooke

So lovely reading this, as a first time preggo lady, I love reading all the different stories and perspectives. Makes me excited for the labour (am I a little bit crazy to look forward to it?) ❤️❤️❤️

Mel

Mel

What a lovely story. I’m pregnant with my first and love reading others stories, I can’t wait to find out what mine will be like! Looking forward to hear your story with Sav! X

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